How do you roll back time? You can't
There is no such thing as a time machine, therefore, "do all the good you can, to all the people you can, for as long as you can", and if you think you might have hurt someone try to make amends as soon as possible. Don't wait until years later.
Sometimes trying to go back in time to fix past hurt only revive something that has been put to rest a long time ago.
I had one such experience this week and I was so mad at the person I did not know what to do with myself. Even though she was trying to explain how she felt and why she made the choices she did, all I could see was how she had hurt me.
While it is good that you acknowledge some wrong you have done and wants to make amend, consider what bringing all that stuff back to the surface will do to the offended person.
So if you hurt someone and years later you develop a conscience and have the need to say I'm sorry, just send a card to say "I'm sorry for being a jerk last year, can you forgive me?" or something like that, don't go digging up things from the past because while you are downloading what's in your heart and is clearing your conscience the other person is being hurt all over again.
Don't try to make up for years of hurt, just say you are sorry and move on and if you can, just try to build a new relationship, because time is the best healer.
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