Needless suffering.
So many women go through life suffering needlessly, afraid of the “what ifs”.
I am one of those who worry about very and anything. I am past my child bearing years but for about five to six years I have spent every month suffering with chronic anemia from heavy bleeding, low energy, bloated stomach, fatigue, issue with my bladder and pain.
I had fibroids, and I spend four to five days each month in agony. For a long time, friends and associates asked me “why don’t you just have the surgery”; I always find one excuse after the other. When my doctor told me I was going into menopause and things would get better, I no long see the need for surgery.
After one year of not menstruating and while on vacation, I woke up to pain and bleeding, and that was my cue that it’s time.
I came back from vacation and went to the doctor and she advised me that I should have a hysterectomy. All my what if’s and fears presented themselves, however, I ask the Lord to see me and He did. I made preparations, and my doctors and nurses were wonderful. I have my uterus removed, but leave my ovaries. I did not want another large scar on my tummy and I don’t have one thanks to laparoscopic technology.
I just went for eight weeks post-operation check up and was given a clean bill of health. I feel great and my clothes fit better, my over all quality of life is so much better.
The result for out weigh the “what if’s”.
I am telling my story because there might be one person out there who is going through what I did and I just want to say, do it, you will be a happier you.
Thursday, April 4, 2013
Friday, March 8, 2013
Wanting More................
Wanting More….
I recently read a book where the female heroin stated that she “wants more” in her relationship.
She did get her "more" and was happy, but, how many of us can say after getting “more” that we are happy? We should not always wait for someone to give us what we think will make us happy, but strive to find happiness for ourselves.
As a young girl growing up, I was mostly alone except when I at my grandma’s house and so I learn at an early age to find my own happiness. Yes, life will be melancholy at times, but it is up to us to decide whether we are going to be bog down with stuff or shake it off and move on.
I always say that my children are my life, but they grew up and moved away and have lives of their own and I am left alone. Sometimes I am a little melancholy (sad because I miss them), but for the most part as long as I know that they are ok I am fine and I can go on to fine my “more”.
Not everyone have what it takes to deal with the stuff that is life, but if you want more by all means ask. Never take it for granted that people around you knows what’s going on with you. You are the only one in your head and therefore the only one who knows what’s there.
Often time people will say they want more but, don’t know exactly what they want. They will look at someone else’s life and think they want what that person have, however, when they get it, it’s not what they really want.
It is at this point one should reflect on their own life to see what if anything they can do for themselves or what changes they can make in they life to make it better (to get more).
I recently read a book where the female heroin stated that she “wants more” in her relationship.
She did get her "more" and was happy, but, how many of us can say after getting “more” that we are happy? We should not always wait for someone to give us what we think will make us happy, but strive to find happiness for ourselves.
As a young girl growing up, I was mostly alone except when I at my grandma’s house and so I learn at an early age to find my own happiness. Yes, life will be melancholy at times, but it is up to us to decide whether we are going to be bog down with stuff or shake it off and move on.
Not everyone have what it takes to deal with the stuff that is life, but if you want more by all means ask. Never take it for granted that people around you knows what’s going on with you. You are the only one in your head and therefore the only one who knows what’s there.
Often time people will say they want more but, don’t know exactly what they want. They will look at someone else’s life and think they want what that person have, however, when they get it, it’s not what they really want.
It is at this point one should reflect on their own life to see what if anything they can do for themselves or what changes they can make in they life to make it better (to get more).
Monday, November 19, 2012
Melancholy
In a modern context, "melancholy" applies only to the mental or emotional symptoms of depression or despondency, From the Greek, melancholia- sadness, from the latin - ludgere to mourn.
Since I am not mourning nor am I mentally ill or depressed, I can therefore say that I am in a state of sadness. This I hope will soon pass.
The holidays are fast approching and it's makes me sad. Sad because somewhere, somehow I have fail at my most important job. When I look back, can't seems to find the place where I have made an error, but am I suppose to find it or just move forward and try to do better? This, I ponder.
In 2007 someone went into my home and steal almost all of my jewlery. I spent the next year trying to replace them, but with each new piece I bought I relealize that I cannot replace what was taken away.
Almost everything I had was given to me or purchase for a reason, a birthday, christmas, an opology etc. the new pieces however have no meaning, just a reminder of how selfish and envious people are . This too makes me sad, not sad for me but for the person who think that they have to steal from someone who trusted them.
So, today I will give a hundred and ten precent to whatever I have to do and maybe I will be rewarded with cheerfulness.
I'm just saying...........
Since I am not mourning nor am I mentally ill or depressed, I can therefore say that I am in a state of sadness. This I hope will soon pass.
The holidays are fast approching and it's makes me sad. Sad because somewhere, somehow I have fail at my most important job. When I look back, can't seems to find the place where I have made an error, but am I suppose to find it or just move forward and try to do better? This, I ponder.
In 2007 someone went into my home and steal almost all of my jewlery. I spent the next year trying to replace them, but with each new piece I bought I relealize that I cannot replace what was taken away.
Almost everything I had was given to me or purchase for a reason, a birthday, christmas, an opology etc. the new pieces however have no meaning, just a reminder of how selfish and envious people are . This too makes me sad, not sad for me but for the person who think that they have to steal from someone who trusted them.
So, today I will give a hundred and ten precent to whatever I have to do and maybe I will be rewarded with cheerfulness.
I'm just saying...........
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Respect
I don't know if it's because I'm getting older why I am so sensitive to things I have put up with for years.
I can't stand men gets on the trains or buses and have no respect for women. The seats are already too small but the men just spread out their legs and behave as if they are in their living room with their elbow in your side, their newspaper up in front of them to make sure they can't see what's going on around them. They don't want to see or hear you, it doesn't matter how uncomfortable you are. Even when there are standing room only, they just rub up so closely. Very rarely do you see a man gets up to give his seat to a woman, doesn't matter if she is pregnant ( the ladies are the ones getting up), sick or old.
I remember on one of Oprah's show, she had the men in the audience getting up and hugging the ladies and saying they were sorry, (they were been surrogates for all the women who had been hurt by men in their lives). Every time I experience it or see it happened to someone it makes me sad.
Yes, I know that it's public transportation and we should not expect to be as comfortable as if we are home or in a private limo, but I think the men should be a little more respect of female commuters and treats us the way they would like the see their mothers treated.
I can't stand men gets on the trains or buses and have no respect for women. The seats are already too small but the men just spread out their legs and behave as if they are in their living room with their elbow in your side, their newspaper up in front of them to make sure they can't see what's going on around them. They don't want to see or hear you, it doesn't matter how uncomfortable you are. Even when there are standing room only, they just rub up so closely. Very rarely do you see a man gets up to give his seat to a woman, doesn't matter if she is pregnant ( the ladies are the ones getting up), sick or old.
I remember on one of Oprah's show, she had the men in the audience getting up and hugging the ladies and saying they were sorry, (they were been surrogates for all the women who had been hurt by men in their lives). Every time I experience it or see it happened to someone it makes me sad.
Yes, I know that it's public transportation and we should not expect to be as comfortable as if we are home or in a private limo, but I think the men should be a little more respect of female commuters and treats us the way they would like the see their mothers treated.
Friday, July 20, 2012
Time and Cost.
All my crochet items are priced according to the size and the materials I will need to finish the piece.
It's usually two to three week from date of order to finish and delivery.
It's usually two to three week from date of order to finish and delivery.
My Crochet Dresses and more..
About six months ago someone asked me to make a sweater for her baby girl and so I started making baby things. This time, however I will not only make baby things, I will make a variety of things.
Everything I make will be for sale, or by special order.
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